Hey, I need to hear from you!
You, single dad. You, father. You, who knows a father. I’ve personally met and worked with parents behind the scenes who face difficulty as a single parent and subsequently navigating the system as required of them in order to reunify with their children. Most often, it’s with mothers – but this is not to say that fathers are not involved. While I can certainly touch on this topic alone, my preference is to pitch on a subject that is widely recognized but has rarely been supported on the public platform.
Single Dads – their lack of representation and support, and the need to lift them up. The system (insert your adversarial organization, government entity or person here), unfortunately, is not set up entirely in their favor as most states are considered a “mother” state, one that is highly favorable to mothers particularly of those who are not married. I’ve seen lives of fathers slip away due to this. Women who’ve made false statements against them to obtain what they want. Fathers resorting to stepping away permanently as a result, irrespective to reason. Fathers losing their freedom. Unfortunately, these circumstances just end up happening and through time, has become expected, the norm, natural or even statistically engraved. I’d like to open up that platform for them. For the fathers who have been pretty much forced to silence.
Daringly, I’d also like to open up the platform for even those fathers who end up voluntarily relinquishing their rights, for whatever the reason – good or bad. Now I’ve shared my own personal story on my website and in my circumstance, my former husband has in fact personally chosen to give up his responsibility as a father as well as the existence of his children. You bet I said that! While he and many others have been responsible for the ongoing profiling of a “deadbeat” dad, this platform would also be open, candidly, to explore and expand on this as well. One thing I can promise and set out in advance is there will be absolutely no tolerance of bias, judgment or negativity. “Ain’t nobody got time for that!” I have worked with many fathers, and found that there are those who, too, have found themselves in this circumstance and if given the opportunity to go back in time, would make that change in a heartbeat.
Because ultimately, your voice is fading away and the negative stigma that is faced upon you is haunting. Because perhaps you can be part of a significant change for you, a family member, your friend, and most importantly your child(ren). Who matters in all of this anyway? Them! Your child(ren), their child(ren), ALL children now and forevermore.
Now I’m not oblivious to the amount of work nor time this will take. There’s a plethora of individuals that would need to be on board starting with the other parent, the child, the system, lawmakers, organizations, and several other stakeholders. But guess what, combined they are only 50% of the solution. YOU alone, dear fathers are the other half. Historically, passivity has not been your friend.
As I’ve shared, I’m a single mom – a woman. A woman who gains nothing from this personally. But, I do have boys. I also have a daughter. While I fervently seek to raise them up and influence them to becoming responsible God-fearing men and God-fearing woman, their decisions are ultimately in their hands in the future. I’m doing this for them. I have family members and friends who are going through this and this is for them as well.
A Call To Action
I’ve been given the opportunity and a generous amount of time to gather up information, data, facts, results, solutions and a plan. I am looking for you, your story in your very own voice. So are you in? Would you help me? It would be my pleasure working with you. As a person with knowledge and background in this arena, there’s so much you could gain; and even if you just want to see what this is all about, I’m cool with that too! Click the link to get your voices heard and be part of something BIG!
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As always, stay prayed up & be blessed!